VICTORINE'S ART OF SEDUCTION

To be a true coquette, you must be willing at any point to leave. Thus, the object of your seduction will want to possess you all the more.

—Duchess Victorine Laurent de Lyon

To help you recall these rules, just remember: V-I-C-T-O-R-I-N-E

VARIETY—
Never become predictable or boring. Create suspense. Keep the gentleman guessing. Send mixed signals. Be warm then suddenly cool. Throw a tantrum, then initiate rapprochement. Argue with him, but share his interests, desires and dreams. Have your own opinions and be different enough to be fascinating.

INTELLECT—
Your intellect is the most seductive quality you possess.

CONFIDENCE—
Be self-confident. If you don’t feel so, feign it until you discover your true self-worth. If you must embark on a journey of self-discovery to acquire confidence, do so.

TRANSPORT—
The object of your seduction must be transported to your realm of pleasure so that he may forget his problems and the concerns of his daily life. Use all your talents to take your target farther into your loving world. In the words of Baudelaire, transport him into the realm of “luxe, calme and volupté.”

OBJECT OF FASCINATION—
Be an object of fascination-wear make-up, beautiful clothes, read the latest novels, know about far-flung subjects that will amuse and delight. Astonish him. Remind with subtle hints how you are an object of fascination to others. Males feel most alive when they compete: in sport, in business, in the halls of power.

REMOVE YOURSELF—
You must be willing at any point to leave. This is perhaps the most important rule of seduction. Never be taken for granted. If you feel you are, then leave and find your next object of seduction.

INTERESTED—
Be genuinely interested in your gentleman. Focus on the best qualities that endear him to you. Minimize his faults in your mind. Truly listen as he speaks of his fondest dreams and his darkest fears. Listen to the tales of his childhood, his first love, his worst frustrations and his proudest triumphs. The world is constantly battering his ego, or flattering him falsely. Be his safe harbor and he will become yours forever.

NAUGHTY—
Be naughty as little children sometimes are. Be harmless, fun, and naughty.

ENJOY—
Enjoy life. We are here on this earth to create love and to share it.

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